Revenge bedtime procrastination is so real. I can tell when I'm not doing well because I tend to stay up later even though I know I need to rest. I thought for a long time I wasn't a morning person, but I actually just needed slow, quiet, consistent mornings.
100%! Something I love about being a late diagnosed AuDHDer is "discovering" words and terms for things that I already do and just didn't have the name for! Something I've been feeling since moving to the country is how EXCITED I am about slow and quiet mornings. I think that's also a part of being excited about going to bed earlier-because there's a big excitement also about having a restful and slow morning. I really relate to what you shared about not being a morning person but just needing quiet and slow mornings-I feel that way too!
Yes! I've got two young kids so my mornings are not often as slow or quiet as I really need, but now that I can see the difference and name certain things, I'm able to do my best to prioritize getting good rest and setting myself up for the calmest mornings possible.
That sounds so very important-both to acknowledge that it might not be possible for your mornings to be as slow + quiet as you want but also to set yourself up to have the calmest mornings as possible. Thanks for sharing that :)
No idea "revenge bedtime procrastination" was a thing but 🙋🏻♂️ I've had insomnia since I was 11-12 - only diagnosed AuDHD last summer. This is interesting - I'm still trying to figure out what works and whether I need meds to help the ADHD side. Sleep is so important especially for stress levels and thresholds but still figuring it out.
Thanks for sharing and yay for you 🙌🏻 getting the sleep and feeling good about it too 😊
You are so welcome and thank you for reading and for sharing your own experiences! Sleep is truly so important and insomnia is SO hard to deal with. I feel like getting diagnosed can be so supportive in so many ways and one of those ways is 100% finding out what works for us and what we need. I hope you can figure out what your needs are around sleep and what type of things are supportive-sleep truly is so so important.
Yes, I will be starting to find what works now - I didn't realise until literally yesterday morning that my ADHD was even remotely responsible for insomnia and where my hyper focused periods show up/can affect my ability to be at rest. Lots more learning ahead 😊
Hi Rey, thank you so much for reading and for this lovely comment! As I starting writing it, I was like "are people really going to want to read about sleep?" so I'm glad to hear that it resonated with you.
Ohh thank you so much for sharing all of this! As I was writing this newsletter post I was like "is this the most boring topic ever?" So it's helpful to hear that it resonated with people. The irony that after writing this the change of the clocks really screwed up my sleep schedule-but I'm slowly getting back to it. Insomnia truly is so fucking hard. I do take a melatonin based supplement and I've found that helpful, as well as being so damn strict with my routines, when sleep is really hard I also sleep on a heating pad (with a 2 hour timer) and a weighted plushie-as well as rest breaks during the day to catch up on my rest a bit. I am so sorry that you've been experiencing the insomnia to burnout cycle since 2022-that is truly so long. It's so frustrating when we do all the things and are SO careful and then still struggle with sleep. I know stress, worry and anxiety is a big trigger for insomnia for me so I have to be careful about those things-and sometimes they happen because of just life. I really can remember what that "I'm so tired" feels like...ugg it truly is so damn hard. I really hope sleep starts to feel easier for you soon. I agree that it's so important to talk about the connection between insomnia and burnout. I also notice how feeling rested changes depending on my menstrual cycle. Not sure if you also notice that but it's helpful for me to track because I have a hard time falling sleeping when I'm extra sensitive to sensory stuff. Thank you for sharing all of this with me (and everyone else reading this!)
Revenge bedtime procrastination is so real. I can tell when I'm not doing well because I tend to stay up later even though I know I need to rest. I thought for a long time I wasn't a morning person, but I actually just needed slow, quiet, consistent mornings.
100%! Something I love about being a late diagnosed AuDHDer is "discovering" words and terms for things that I already do and just didn't have the name for! Something I've been feeling since moving to the country is how EXCITED I am about slow and quiet mornings. I think that's also a part of being excited about going to bed earlier-because there's a big excitement also about having a restful and slow morning. I really relate to what you shared about not being a morning person but just needing quiet and slow mornings-I feel that way too!
Yes! I've got two young kids so my mornings are not often as slow or quiet as I really need, but now that I can see the difference and name certain things, I'm able to do my best to prioritize getting good rest and setting myself up for the calmest mornings possible.
That sounds so very important-both to acknowledge that it might not be possible for your mornings to be as slow + quiet as you want but also to set yourself up to have the calmest mornings as possible. Thanks for sharing that :)
No idea "revenge bedtime procrastination" was a thing but 🙋🏻♂️ I've had insomnia since I was 11-12 - only diagnosed AuDHD last summer. This is interesting - I'm still trying to figure out what works and whether I need meds to help the ADHD side. Sleep is so important especially for stress levels and thresholds but still figuring it out.
Thanks for sharing and yay for you 🙌🏻 getting the sleep and feeling good about it too 😊
You are so welcome and thank you for reading and for sharing your own experiences! Sleep is truly so important and insomnia is SO hard to deal with. I feel like getting diagnosed can be so supportive in so many ways and one of those ways is 100% finding out what works for us and what we need. I hope you can figure out what your needs are around sleep and what type of things are supportive-sleep truly is so so important.
Yes, I will be starting to find what works now - I didn't realise until literally yesterday morning that my ADHD was even remotely responsible for insomnia and where my hyper focused periods show up/can affect my ability to be at rest. Lots more learning ahead 😊
Wow, such an important realization! I bet that will be really helpful as you explore what works for your insomnia.
This was such a lovely reflection on healing. Thank you for sharing!
Hi Rey, thank you so much for reading and for this lovely comment! As I starting writing it, I was like "are people really going to want to read about sleep?" so I'm glad to hear that it resonated with you.
Ohh thank you so much for sharing all of this! As I was writing this newsletter post I was like "is this the most boring topic ever?" So it's helpful to hear that it resonated with people. The irony that after writing this the change of the clocks really screwed up my sleep schedule-but I'm slowly getting back to it. Insomnia truly is so fucking hard. I do take a melatonin based supplement and I've found that helpful, as well as being so damn strict with my routines, when sleep is really hard I also sleep on a heating pad (with a 2 hour timer) and a weighted plushie-as well as rest breaks during the day to catch up on my rest a bit. I am so sorry that you've been experiencing the insomnia to burnout cycle since 2022-that is truly so long. It's so frustrating when we do all the things and are SO careful and then still struggle with sleep. I know stress, worry and anxiety is a big trigger for insomnia for me so I have to be careful about those things-and sometimes they happen because of just life. I really can remember what that "I'm so tired" feels like...ugg it truly is so damn hard. I really hope sleep starts to feel easier for you soon. I agree that it's so important to talk about the connection between insomnia and burnout. I also notice how feeling rested changes depending on my menstrual cycle. Not sure if you also notice that but it's helpful for me to track because I have a hard time falling sleeping when I'm extra sensitive to sensory stuff. Thank you for sharing all of this with me (and everyone else reading this!)